romance fundamentals

   It is rather difficult to be romantic without first flirting. What exactly is flirting and how can you adapt some flirting into your own romantic moods and play? To begin, you don’t want to be too aggressive. Start with very friendly gestures and once you have gotten those moves down, and then go for the romantic flirting!

   Flirting is a frame of mind:
   Be self-confident and do not be afraid to take risks.
   Be enthusiastic about romance and be positive!

   Start a sexy conversation:
   Start with a simple, opening line by saying hello.
   Talk about anything at all, whatever will get the romance going.

   Enjoy yourself and have fun:
   Be playful, light-hearted and above all, be spontaneous.
   Show that you can be vulnerable.

   Make good use of all props:
   Always use a prop.
   Props will get the conversation started naturally. They encourage conversation and others will want to start talking to you.
   Great props are: pets, children, great jewelry, a wonderful scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite sports team’s emblem, an interesting book or magazine.

   Play host:
   Take the lead by taking on the role of host.
   Do not be the passive person in waiting, but rather the lead.

   Introduce yourself first:
   Move closer to the person you want to meet and introduce yourself confidently!

   Listen-up:
   Everyone loves to be heard and when you are a good listener your partner will be drawn to you.

   Make bold eye contact:
   Look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then look away. You don’t want to stare!

   Pay a genuine compliment:
   Your partner will be pleased and will warm up to you more.

   Show a beautiful smile:
   You will look so much more approachable. Everyone is attracted to a genuine and heartfelt, smile.

   So there you go! These are all ground-breakers when wanting to approach someone with romance. We must always be mindful of the fundamentals.

   When we just dive right in, unexpected, we can turn our loved one off. Go slow, a step at a time and feeling confident, approach with your best romance moves.

   Have you ever wished you could come up with a new gift idea to show your loved one how you feel?

   Have you ever wondered about what the different colors of Roses actually mean? For instance, next time you choose a specific color of Rose, do so to convey a special meaning.

   Look below and learn what the different Rose colors represent and next time you buy a Rose as a gift, deliver a loving message at the same time.

Colored Roses and What Each Color Means

Red - Love, I Love You

Pink - Perfect Happiness, Please Believe Me

Peach - Modesty

White - Innocence and Purity, I am Worthy of You, You're Heavenly

Orange - Fascination

Yellow - Texas Love, Joy and Friendship

Single Full Bloomed Rose - I Love You, I Still Love You

White and Red Mixed - Unity

Rosebud - Beauty and Youth, A Heart of Innocent Love

Rosebud (Red) - Pure and Lovely

Rosebud (White) - Girlhood

Bridal - Happy Love

Christmas - Tranquilize My Anxiety

Damask - Persian Ambassador of Love

Dark Crimson - Mourning or Loss

Hibiscus - Delicate Beauty

Leaf - You May Hope

Tea - I'll Remember Always

Thornless - Love at First Sight

Bouquet of Mature Blooms - Gratitude

   Next time you buy your loved one a Rose as a gift, attach a handwritten card to convey the message to him/her that the color means. This is a great way to enhance your love life!

   Here are some great examples for you to adapt for yourself:

   Tea Rose -- Last night was very special. I’ll Remember Always!

   Dark Crimson -- You mean so much to me. Can we try again just one more time?

   Rosebud (Red) -- You take my breath away! You look so lovely!

   Orange -- You fascinate me! Can we spend more time together?

   Even smaller, simpler messages will enhance your love life and will thrill your partner!

   Some men just aren’t in tune with their romantic side. Fortunately, most men can be taught, given the right attitude. Proceed carefully and don't ever pressure your man into romance. Here are some initial tips:

The golden rule is to lead by example.
   Remember, you want your man to take the lead, but, on his terms, not yours. Start by pampering him. Do what he likes to do best -- even if that is drinking with the chums, playing a video game, or just watching TV on a Saturday night.

   Doing this, a spicy ending to any of these activities will be much more favorable for him. Afterwards, show him you'd appreciate similar attention towards you, and eventually he'll get the bigger picture.

Take charge of a great night out with your man.
   Plan an entire night on the town and then let your man just come along for the ride. Women need to appreciate just how difficult it can be for the man to always be the one to find creative and fun things to do.

   It can be very romantic for the man when his lady takes charge in this way, finding a new restaurant and activity for them to enjoy. The man can find this very exciting and will be open to romance afterwards, once an enjoyable evening has been spent together.

Turn romance into a competitive game.
   Alternate planning weekly date nights with your man and plan an activity that will appeal to his competitive nature. Men will often want to take the lead here because they find great pleasure in outdoing their mate.

Finally, make sure your man knows how much you appreciate the little things that he does for you.
   This can be cooking a great meal when you are tired, opening the car door for you, treating you to a chocolate heart when you are feeling blue, any number of thoughtful, little things.

   Make a point of mentioning that he does this for you in front of your friends and watch the envy of the other ladies ooze all over the place! Your man will take notice and feel loved! Romantic moments should quicken with this plan!

   There are definite things that you can do to encourage your man’s romantic nature. All he may need is a little suggestion, knowing how much he is appreciated and a few well thought out challenges to get his creative juices flowing.

Couples are forever looking for ways to strengthen or enhance their love life.
   A very simple and effective way to steal away for some quality time together is to establish a time to meet each day.

   This can easily be arranged over the lunch hour and after dinner hours.

   One idea is to arrange a time to meet for a drink of tea, or whatever type of drink that you prefer. If possible, arrange to meet in your home where you are assured of privacy.

   With tea, enjoy a bite to eat when you can. While polishing off your pot of tea, simply sit for 30 minutes or so and discuss how your day is going and make any plans ahead for the coming week.

   This can be a rather intimate time for the two of you and can become a regular ritual.

   Many couples with children often want to know how they can add romance to their relationship being surrounded by children.

   The regular meeting ritual is one way that couples can both spend some special time alone while setting a wonderful example for the children that their mom and dad really love each other.

   For parents with small children, it might be impossible to spend quiet time alone together until after the children are put to bed. The importance of the ritual is the uninterrupted time spent together.

   Whatever means you use to be able to do that consistently will pay off in the romance department, now and well into the future.

Here are some things you can do to make the sparks of romance fly:

   ♥While your loved one is at work, use your spare key to open their car door and place roses and a card in their driver's seat. This will show your loved one your true feelings.

   ♥Don't buy your loved one a commercial type card to declare your love. Make them one and send it to them in the mail, even if you live together. The card will surprise your loved one!

   ♥Give your loved one a small decorated box. On the inside flap write "These are 50 of the many reasons why I love you." Create 50 brightly-colored folded strips of paper inside with various phrases...all declaring your love. Fill each strip of paper with something very personal and include some special surprises like a gift certificate to their favorite spa.

   ♥Spend the night outdoors together on a really warm, clear night. Name a star after him/her and register that name on-line.

   ♥Cook the love of your life what will be a favorite meal. Use candles, a bottle of red or white wine, then follow this up with a back and neck massage. Do this “just because” and ask for nothing in return. For message oils use sandalwood, lavender or ylang ylang. The art is to please your loved one. Watch the night just sizzle!

   ♥Send your loved one on a scavenger hunt. Have him find his goodies (prepaid and waiting) at the bakery, deli, wine store etc., and when he gets home meet him at the door in something very sheer. Feed him blindfolded and then hand him a Polaroid camera and tell him to have a ball!

   ♥Have a “conversation a day” (on the phone or at home) where you whisper to the other person and let them know you love them and miss them. Your whisper will capture their attention.

   ♥Run your love a bath, adding oil and bubbles. Fill the bathroom and bedroom with tea candles everywhere. Bathe your partner very slowly and massage the water and oil into their skin very gently. Tease them with kisses. Finish by presenting a warmed, fluffy bath towel and give a long kiss while drying them off. Complete your love ritual by rubbing your partner down with a sensual lotion.

   ♥Leave a trail of Hershey's Kisses with the pieces of paper that say "KISSES" taken out and replaced with your own romantic quotes.   Make this trail lead to the shower to find roses and a note that says, "Now that I have kissed the ground you walk on and showered you with roses................You fill in the blanks!

   ♥Draw little hearts all over some post it notes and place them in your loved one’s lunch box, place on the bathroom mirror, etc. Just use your imagination.

   ♥Line a delicate trail of rose petals to lead to your bed and place one sweet love letter on top of a mound of the scented rose petals. Your loved one will melt!

   ♥Leave a single pink rose on your loved one’s pillow for the next morning....

   ♥Sing a love song in the shower and be sure to use your loved one’s name.

   ♥Wear your loved one’s cologne or perfume for the day. This will forever remind you of them.

   ♥Wrap a small mirror in a delicately laced piece of fine cloth and beautiful ribbon, then present this to your lover. Tell them, "I want you to know that this is what I treasure most in my life..."

   ♥Present your loved one with a small locket with a picture of you both, each on one side. Use a long silken cord or ribbon instead of a chain.

   ♥Give him or her flowers on each of your children's birthdays.

   ♥A thoughtful heart is a romantic heart!♥

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